You want success? Come on, who doesn’t? But do your habits support your desire for success?
What is success? That depends on whom you’re talking to.
Success is different for everyone. If I tried to define success in one universal concept, I’d be writing for days upon days, and honestly, I’d be wasting my time. There is no way to describe success because success is not one-size-fits-all. Not even close.
However, it doesn’t matter what area of life you are looking for success or what type of success you want—your habits play a big part in what you accomplish. People who are unsuccessful have different habits than those who are successful.
“What are Some Successful Habits, Bruiser?”
Okay, if you really want to know, I’d be happy to give you a few. These aren’t all the habits out there, but this should begin to get you thinking. Which of these habits do you share?
- Successful people set goals while unsuccessful people don’t. If you want success in any area of life, you have to know what success is to you. Goals give you an idea of where you want to end up. Goals give you something to actually work for. And when successful people reach their goals, what do they do? They set more goals. Bigger goals. The bigger the goals, the better………………as long as you truly believe you can reach that goal. So, what are you waiting for? Develop some goal-setting strategies!
I could go on and on about setting goals, but that’s for another blog post. Just know that those who don’t set goals either don’t have an idea of what success is to them or they’re playing “small ball” with their life.
- Successful people speak positively to or about others while unsuccessful people speak negatively. There are good qualities in every person on this planet. You may find this a little hard to believe, but it’s true. Look for the good in people you interact with, whether it’s your family, friends, co-workers, or even someone you are meeting for the first time. Pay compliments to someone for the good you see in that person, or around others, some something positive about him or her. Don’t criticize or gossip about anything negative. You will only receive that back in some form. Add, “speak positively” to the list of habits you want to work on!
- Successful people take responsibility while unsuccessful people blame others.No matter what we do, say, or think, life will never be perfect. Things will happen that we will not be particularly fond of. It’s a part of life. The question is: How will you respond? The unsuccessful person will look for external factor to pin the blame on. They could blame other people, their job, where they live, an event in their lives—they’ll do anything but take responsibility themselves—like the successful people do. If you want to be successful and you don’t like what’s going on in your life, change it. Take the initiative to turn a bad situation into a good situation.
And since we’re talking about initiative…………………………
- Successful people take action while unsuccessful people wait for a lucky break.I used to be really guilty of this—really guilty. I looked for a lucky break…….all the time!!!!!! I would get jealous when I saw others get their big breaks. Then, I understood what a “lucky break” really is. It’s the prime opportunity that shows up for the man or woman that works hard and prepares for it. Perseverance is one of the most valuable traits you can develop. Instead of a lucky break, you really want a breakthrough. For that, you need to take inspired action that aligns with your goals. If you do something that doesn’t work, try other actions. Keep taking action until you achieve the breakthrough you seek. If you’re afraid to do something, do it anyway. Action is the only solution to seeking a lucky break.
- Successful people learn every day while unsuccessful people think they know it all. One of my favorite quotes of all time is by the last author and longshoreman, Eric Hoffer.He said, “In times of change, the learners inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.” Change is happening in this world more rapidly than ever. New technologies, new ways to do things—it’s happening all the time. Most people graduate high school or college and takes delight that their education is over………or so they think. True education never ends. Success lies in constantly studying new insights and skills, and then implementing them.
- Successful people embrace change while unsuccessful people fear it.Change is inevitable. The Eric Hoffer quote plays into this as well. The world is never going to stand still. You as a person will never stand still. You’re either moving forward or backward. To fear change is to go backward. Fearing change falls along the lines of thinking one knows it all. Nothing lasts forever and if you’re not ready for it—what are you going to do? If you keep learning and improving yourself, you’ll be much more equipped to handle the change in this world.
- Successful people feel and practice gratitude while unsuccessful people feel entitlement.As a society, we have become all about wanting more, more, more. And why not? Who doesn’t want more in their lives? The problem is we don’t want to work for it. We feel we’re entitled to have everything quickly and easily. Reality check, my friend. Success doesn’t play that game. You want to reach your goals; you got to work for it. That is not enough, however. You got to have the right attitude. Focus on what you don’t have and your journey will be filled with lack, resentment, and worry. The result? You will continue to lack what you don’t have and you’ll end up bitter, angry, and thus unsuccessful. How do you prevent this? Focus on the things you do have and be grateful. Act as if you are abundant already. Doing so will allow you to attract more abundance into your life. You will continue to be happy, grateful, and thus successful.
All it Takes is a Shift in Habits
The successful and unsuccessful are only separated by the habits they implement throughout the day. It is not genetics, social status, or education that makes the difference. It is the habits. Oh, and if you don’t have the habits of successful people right now, you can develop them.
Starting today, choose a habit and work on making it a regular part of your life—one habit at a time until it is ingrained in you that you don’t have to think about doing it. How long does that take, Bruiser? It depends. There are so many answers that you would be looking all day. The focus is on the development of the habit. Are you developing habits that are successful?
Read more about my thoughts on trying to change too many habits at once; then, if you would like to improve on your habits or anything else with your mindset, download this free “4 Epic Ways to Improve Your Mindset” infographic. Check it out!!!